Shining Light on a Hidden Epidemic and finding your Sacred Space after Sexual Abuse
With the wave of the international women's MeToo movement, women are finally pushing back on an age old Sexual Abuse epidemic.
Disclosing your personal story and taking a stand to make changes, you or someone that you care about still needs to navigate the healing journey. Once immediate safety and trauma issues have stabilized, there will a multitude of emotions and hard personal questions to be sifted and sorted. Thus, no matter whether you are an atheist or a seeker, Sacred Space, mind body soul includes the practical and spiritual aspects of the healing journey. Those spiritual otherworldly questions are typically void in traditional counselling, yet I believe, essential to the healing journey. This in hand with the fact that statistics mind blowing still average out to be 1 in 4 are survivors of sexual abuse in some capacity and 1 woman is raped every 17 minutes in Canada. With a daughter, nieces and a granddaughter in my life, it is time to share all of the insights and wisdom I wish I had known when I was young.
I have walked many, many miles in my own journey and now with the fortitude of post menopause (chuckle as you may), brings a very different objective sense of discerning grace, faith, passion and confidence. What I do know for certain is that healing of self and loving of self is the sacred key to happiness which ripples outward positively affecting life and those around us; through our past and ancestral lineage, now and for future generations.
I have found that it began with me; in that ditching cultural and religious beliefs, I began to honour and audaciously self-love, which is the best anecdote to carrying old garbage which serves no good to self or others. I want for all vulnerable people to grasp that notion!
We are all unsung heroes and heroines just for giving this earthly existence a go, most often blind to the bigger picture. That aged menopausal re-wiring throws a passionate curve ball into tolerance; we post menopausal crones lose tolerance for insincerity, longing for harmony, passionate love, laughter and fulfillment.
It does however, blow my mind that statistics have remained a constant estimated one in four are survivors of sexual trauma. These numbers are staggering! This has been a continuous massive ripple effect that affects all of us, including the pain and harm within the psyche of offenders. From a broader perspective, sexual assault has been a shadow aspect of civilization since time recorded, often used as a war tactic to kick out a culture’s stability at its pillars; women, children and the vulnerable.
This is a social and global issue.
Why on earth is sexual assault, still a social issue in our global society? How on earth have we become so disconnected and isolated from believing in a loving higher power, our own innate goodness and each other? It boggles my mind. I wish for and envision that I may live long enough to see the issue as ancient history in this life time and that any residue harmful effects are not carried through into my children’s generations yet to be. I wish for a rekindling sense of sisterhoods, brotherhoods and community.
I long for my children, grandchildren, people everywhere to grasp the simple fact that there is much freedom found in simply taking a moment to notice that ninety-eight percent of what you felt about someone imposing harm upon you does not belong to you. Stop, close your eyes for a moment and bring to mind a hurtful exchange and ask yourself, how much of this is really mine?
Understanding that we have much to teach our children of self worth and navigating life intuitively. The Buddhist adage holds true; that if we taught children how to meditate, and harvest innate intuition, the world would transform in one generation.
You and I are here at this crossroad in life, because our soul is calling us to grow, to love ourselves, to following the path of doing what we love to do; activities that give us joy and inspiration.
I want you to know that I know for a fact, that you are stronger than you know and give yourself credit for. Your happiness is sacred and your body, mind, feelings and contributions to the world are your own personal sacred space.
Societal judgments and out dated religious morals concerning sexual modes of conduct and behaviours are often deeply ingrained. Sometimes the most beautiful things grow in the most inhospitable of environments. While we cannot yet single handily change people and the world around us to completely ensure our ideal life for all, we can consciously choose to live to our own highest potential and make self care and self love our priority; which in turn, positively affects our lives and others in unimaginable ways.
I wish for you to be good to yourself and grow at your own pace. Remember that; love is the way out; love of self and love your life as it is. Always allow your childlike wonder, quirky authentic self to shine with gratitude, love and laughter.
As a woman who has been there and done that, I wish for you to truly know that you are a divine spark in a timeless sisterhood and brotherhood tapestry collective; you make a positive difference in the world, just as you are.
And I personally wish you loving comfort, laughter, warmth of good friendships and to always see the beauty in the world. I wish you faith, hope, grace, acceptance, confidence, insight and courage.
Blessings on your journey!
By: Jan Porter, #Survivor and author of: “Sacred Space, body mind and soul after sexual abuse” amazon.com, “Life After Abuse, a practical healing guide for survivors”, www.inspiredsoulworks.com, Twitter, GoodReads.com
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